The Obliger
"I feel obligated to..."- a common expression
In this last post on rules I want to review and discuss what Gretchen defines as the last of four personality types when it comes to habits. In today's post I want to review and discuss the forth type: The Obliger.
Ms. Rubin defines The Obliger as someone who is
1. horrible at adhering to inner rules
but
2. great at following all outer rules.
The way I would define this person is someone who has no confidence in themselves. They never set up rules for themselves. They feel that they are not worthy to create rules. An Obliger cares more about what others want than what they need.
An Obliger follows all outer rules. They tend to believe that rules made by others are better than what they could come up with and they do not challenge any of them. They are the ultimate follower. Unfortunately, many companies love to reward these followers with leadership roles. Why? Because they will not question rules and follow orders. They are the perfect little soldiers. In the example I used with all of the types, if they are the team leader and their boss tells them to execute X they simply do it.
A obliger can not create a future for themselves. They can only survive in someone else's world.
Today's question is:
"Are you an Obliger?"
"I feel obligated to..."- a common expression
In this last post on rules I want to review and discuss what Gretchen defines as the last of four personality types when it comes to habits. In today's post I want to review and discuss the forth type: The Obliger.
Ms. Rubin defines The Obliger as someone who is
1. horrible at adhering to inner rules
but
2. great at following all outer rules.
The way I would define this person is someone who has no confidence in themselves. They never set up rules for themselves. They feel that they are not worthy to create rules. An Obliger cares more about what others want than what they need.
An Obliger follows all outer rules. They tend to believe that rules made by others are better than what they could come up with and they do not challenge any of them. They are the ultimate follower. Unfortunately, many companies love to reward these followers with leadership roles. Why? Because they will not question rules and follow orders. They are the perfect little soldiers. In the example I used with all of the types, if they are the team leader and their boss tells them to execute X they simply do it.
A obliger can not create a future for themselves. They can only survive in someone else's world.
Today's question is:
"Are you an Obliger?"
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