365QOD- Day736

“80/20 rule again”- my thought

I listened to two very talkative people have a conversation.  I was wore out. 

During the conversation one of the people kept talking and talking.  Usually their typical conversations are dominated by one or the other.

So the usual format is one will start it and the other will dominate it.  It works for them but I feel that it is limiting.

When I have conversations with people I want to engage with them.  Maybe share something and then listen to their response and ideas.  It seems to me that the 80/20 rule fits well. 

I want to do the 20% and let the other person fill in the 80%.  I know what I know BUT I do not know what they know.  Then I expect the other person to do the 20% and for me to give them the 80% in order for me to contribute.  It is also very important to be able to truly listen and absorb (4 times as important) what is being given to you.  Unfortunately, we most often are just simply formulating our response. 

Most conversations do not follow this ideal.  They can not but the closer they are to that the more ideas we would exchange.

Today’s question is:

“Can you hold a 80/20 conversation?”