"My first theory is that people like to give and receive uplifting advice. Let’s face it – our society is built upon blowing smoke up each other’s asses ( in layman’s terms, giving gratuitous or insincere complements or general good feelings)…. However, our collective unwillingness to engage in a reality check has gotten us in lot of deep doo-doo."- Carol Roth
I found this line while reading the Entrepreneur Equation book. It is the truth. We always try to be nice and polite and give people the "best" spin. Then there are others who like to be brutal with their opinions.
I always say that the truth is somewhere in the middle. We have to use the sandwich approach. Give people a good point, followed by the bad point, and lastly finish with a good point. This usually helps the person to recognize that they are doing some good things AND something to improve upon.
The ratio of 2 to 1 is OK. In a previous post I discussed the suggestion by another author who recommended 6 to 1 ratio for a marriage to succeed.
Again, somewhere between 2 and 6 is the right answer for a particular situation and person you are dealing with.
Today's question is:
"Have you offered someone a sandwich?"
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