Do Change
"I sincerily believe that behavior change is identity/belief change"- Buster Benson
Recently a young person I know started smoking. I was so disappointed. Unfortunately, overseas kids do not get the same anti smoking propaganda. So their chances of starting and staying a smoker are greater.
So why did he choose to start? Reviewing the situation around him it was a simple case of bad peer pressure. He kept seeing his friends smoking and eventually he decided to follow. Amazing enough was that most of these peers are younger by a year.
He now identifies himself as a smoker. He does not have to say it out loud. Puffing away says it all. His identity had been changed.
So what are his choices? He can continue and let the monkey get a better grip on him or change his friends. Which one will he choose? As the quote advises, the identity that he best identifies with will control his behavior.
Today's question is:
"Can you reverse an identity change?"
Depends on his age. Kids are weaker when facing a problem. Now the fact that he started smoking is not good. But sometimes when you have a problem and dont know what to do you just do things that are not the solution. I guess that the young person you mentioned has done its move. Fell sorry for him.
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