Emotional Risk
"This is going to make me cry"-men's ultimate weakness
Many years ago I sat on a beach and read The Power of Full Engagement. I doubt that a week has passed since that I have not referenced it in conversations. The book teaches us about four energies we all share: physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual.
I believe that most of us guys tend to ignore the emotional dimension to our lives. This choice exposes us to a lot of emotional risk. How?
Suppose your spouse needs one hour per day of your undivided attention. This might not be a solid hour but split over many smaller chunks of time. That is what she expects but suppose you only give her 30 minutes for an extended amount of time. Eventually this creates tension and you will have to spend hours trying to get back on track. These hours are usually spent arguing.
It is the classic pay me now our pay me later. If you were to average out the time spend connecting with arguing and the approach that uses daily emotional connection, I bet it will average it to the one hour need.
The difference is in spreading out your emotional risk vs. concentrating it during arguments. Which one is better? I believe that setting time aside every day is a better choice. This way you exercise your emotional muscles ever day and they get stronger.
Today's question is:
"What emotional risk did you expose yourself to today?"
"This is going to make me cry"-men's ultimate weakness
Many years ago I sat on a beach and read The Power of Full Engagement. I doubt that a week has passed since that I have not referenced it in conversations. The book teaches us about four energies we all share: physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual.
I believe that most of us guys tend to ignore the emotional dimension to our lives. This choice exposes us to a lot of emotional risk. How?
Suppose your spouse needs one hour per day of your undivided attention. This might not be a solid hour but split over many smaller chunks of time. That is what she expects but suppose you only give her 30 minutes for an extended amount of time. Eventually this creates tension and you will have to spend hours trying to get back on track. These hours are usually spent arguing.
It is the classic pay me now our pay me later. If you were to average out the time spend connecting with arguing and the approach that uses daily emotional connection, I bet it will average it to the one hour need.
The difference is in spreading out your emotional risk vs. concentrating it during arguments. Which one is better? I believe that setting time aside every day is a better choice. This way you exercise your emotional muscles ever day and they get stronger.
Today's question is:
"What emotional risk did you expose yourself to today?"
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