365QOD- Day1207

Habits of The Mind -Viewpoint

"Everything looks easy, until you have to do it yourself."- old adage

The second habit of the mind is Viewpoint.  According to Deborah Meier, "Viewpoint: How might this look if w stepped into the shoes, or looked at it from different direction?"

Many years ago I read of a technique.  This powerful technique has us experience an event differently.  It looks an event from three points of view.  As an example consider an argument between yourself and another person.

First point of view is yours.  According to the technique, we should replay the argument from your eyes.  Focus on the persons reactions to your words.  Observe their body, their eyes, their voice.   What do you see?

Second point of view is from the other persons eyes.  Replay the argument but this time observe it as if you were looking through their eyes at yourself.  Take a look at your body, your eyes, your voice.

Last point of view is of a person ten feet away to the side of you two.  That person is observing both of you.  Replay the argument but this time look at the interaction between the two  the body positions, the voices, the tonality.

I believe that this technique is very powerful and should be used after arguments and sometimes before events.  After arguments it can serve as a tool to examine what went wrong.  As a coaching tool it can teach us how to improve the likelihood of a better interaction.

Today's question is:

"Do you consider the point of view of other?"